From his diagnosis with bowel cancer in 2009, and throughout his illness, my brave husband Rich always resisted extra support. I suppose this was typical of a man who loved nothing more than helping others – being the person needing help was anathema to him. So he got involved with the Bobby Moore Fund and worked closely with Stephanie Moore on numerous fundraising initiatives – helping others, rather than himself. Initially he avoided the Primrose Unit, Bedford Hospital’s oncology unit, choosing instead to have his treatment at home, which in the early days was an alternative chemotherapy option. He eschewed offers of visits by or Macmillan nurses until very late in his illness and similarly he was reluctant to visit the local hospice to have a look round. The only reason he went to the school’s in-house counsellor was so that if either of our two sons felt they wanted to talk to him, he would know Rich and understand our family better. Always thinking of others.
What is Challenge 51?
Rich was a people magnet and was surrounded by a vast network of close friends, family and colleagues – the 750 + people who attended his thanksgiving service are testament to that – and it was this community that he built, nurtured, valued and relied on, rather than anything else.
In time, as the cancer progressed, Rich did need the support of The Primrose Unit and the fabulous team there. We also regularly met with a Micmillan nurse at our home and he frequently spoke with Stephanie Moore about possible trials and new treatments, as well as fundraising opportunities for the charity. The last 26 days of his life were spent in the St John’s Hospice at Moggerhanger, a truly remarkable place.
And so, it is not at all surprising that part of his legacy, and one of the ways we can all remember this incredible gentle giant of a man is through fundraising.
It is hard to believe that Rich was just 51 when he died after a 9 year battle against his cancer, as indeed was Bobby Moore. Challenge 51 grew from Rich’s wish for us to fundraise for the organisations that had so supported him and we came up with the idea of raising £51,000 in 51 different ways, the total ultimately being split between his chosen charities, namely The Bobby Moore Fund, The Research and Education Fund at Bedford Hospital and the Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice at Moggerhanger. Anyone raising money in Rich’s memory for any/all of these just lets us know what they have raised and we then add it to our totaliser – very Blue Peter. From marathon running to cake sales to 900km cycle rides to mufti days every little bit will help other cancer sufferers and their families.
Improverts Charity Night – Bedlam Theatre Edinburgh. Sunday 15th March 2020
Jocelyn Latif – Bedford Karma Curry Launch – 29th February 2020 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit) £105
Walk Bedford Nordic Walk – 18th April 2020. Postponed. Date tbc
Ullswater Way Challenge – 11th July 2020
Katy Knowles Turvey Ladies Luncheon Friday 15th November 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit) £500
Tess Garrett Starlight Hike, (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice) £1,576.81
Helen Jackson’s Trek to Everest Base Camp (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit) £596
Jazz Brunch at the Eggleton (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice, The Primrose Unit, Bobby Moore Fund) £5,013
Jersey Girls Walk for Rich 22nd June 2019 (Bobby Moore Fund) £1,420
Garrett’s Garrison South Downs Way (Macmillan) £4,710
Harry Anderson Manchester Half Marathon (Primrose Unit) £555
London Marathon Sarah Hardcastle (Primrose Unit) £3,515.88
Bedford School Shop Collection (Primrose Unit) £96
Fashion Show with Moochi Moo (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice) £1,559
Football Shirt Friday Bedford School 10th March 2019 (Bobby Moore) £712
Bedford School mufti day (Bobby Moore) £465.61
Bedford School Mufti Day – Friday 25th January 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice) £776.51
Collection from funeral (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit) – £667
Beach Ball – 27th June 2020. Postponed. Date tbc. Bedford Blues Rugby Club
Hannah LeBrocq Great North Run – 13th Sept 2020
51 Gin Night – date tbc
£1,338 Mt Kenya climb – 24th February 2020 (Primrose Unit)
£540 Cathy Anderson Oxford Half Marathon (Sue Ryder)
£35 Black Tom Big Lunch Charity Raffle & The Foundry – Community Breakfast Charity Collection 24th September (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit)
£750 Pick your own Flowers at Howbury Farm 29th September 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit)
£3,817 Tom Perry – Chillswim Coniston Water (Bobby Moore Fund)
£2,943.75 Paul Goodenough Climbing Mont Blanc 13th June 2019 (Bobby Moore Fund)
£420 Sam Price Run Bedford 10km 2nd June 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice and Primrose Unit)
£2,003.49 Simon Briggs Joberg2c 900km bike ride (Bobby Moore Fund)
£505 – Bedford School Rock Night (Primrose Unit)
£1,626.77 28th March 2019 Charity Run Bedford School
£700 – Donald Andrews Bedford Blues 6 Nations Charity Dinner
£785 – Memorial Service Collection, Bedford School – 17th February 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice, Primrose Unit, Bobby Moore Fund)
£31,010 – JustGiving Page
£367 – Bedford School Paulo Pontine Coffee Morning 23rd Feb 2019 (Sue Ryder St John’s Hospice)